Speaking of the refs...
When dealing with Refs, ALWAYS BE COURTEOUS. Since they will likely be reffing several of your matches, if you make yourself a memorable annoyance, you may be dealt with in a less than objective way later. And I won't blame the refs for that.
When you do have a ref complaint, try to work the problem during the match first. And remember, both captains should agree on whatever the issue is for it to carry any weight. If your on-court remedies fail, you may contact us Volleyball Club officers to hear your case, and we may be able to do something. But please remember, this is a recreational league--let's concentrate on having fun.
The substitution and roster rules take a backseat because my number one objective is to use the court and ref time we've paid for. I simply don't see a "forfeit" as being a pragmatic thing to have in these economic times. Feel free to pull in people from teams that have just played if you need some bodies. But don't abuse this--I've seen situations where a team pulls a top player from another team--not one of their "usual" subs--to play a critical match. Yes, this is supposed to be for fun, but you're just asking for complaints to be lodged. And I don't want to have to deal with angry volleyball teams!
I do want you to write down your subs on the score sheets so I can get an idea of who's subbing on a normal basis for what other teams, and whether some team is having problems getting their players out for matches, etc.
We used to play three games to 13, side-out scored, because because we would be able to get three games in most of the time, with a significant amount of scoring in the third game, most of the time. Rally scoring for all games had been considered for some time, but most people felt more comfortable with the "classic" volleyball side-out scoring (things changed!).
It had been suggested to just rally score the third game to add more scoring, since the third is likely to be cut off on time. But I didn't like the idea of changing the rules for just the third game--it just confuses people, and the ref. Despite my reservations, for our first foray into rally-scoring in Fall 2004, the third game was pretty different from the other two--scored to 15, win by two, or time. This third-game setup is used as a tiebreaker in most situations; since I really would rather play that third game to 25 or time, just to be consistent, and not as a tiebreaker, the third game scoring was again changed in late Fall 2005 to what it is now. Note that we do not cap the third game--we really WANT to run out of time playing, because that means that we used up our court and ref time, as we paid for it.
So now we are now rally scoring to be "current" with the rest of the volleyball world, and most players are happy with the way the matches are scored.
As for computing standings, I've been raked over the coals for not using "winning percentage" instead of just wins as the first tiebreaker. The reason I do this is philisophical: I count what you've done, not what you haven't. Percentages factor in losses; but in our system, losses don't count for anything, they're just lost opportunities. And then I think of a case where I'm asked to rank a 3-0 (three 1-0 match wins) team against an 8-1 (two 3-0 match wins, and one 2-1 match win) team. Unrealistic, yes, but it gets to the point: I think the 8-1 (.889) team is better than the 3-0 (1.000) team! Don't you agree??